Saturday, June 4, 2011
Busy is an Understatement
Most phones nowadays come with calendar, organizers, or other PDA functions which are meant to make you more productive and occupied. Productive? Not sure about that. But occupied? Definitely a YES.
The sad thing is, we’re becoming too occupied for our own good. We are so busy that we do not have the time to notice other people around us. We have lesser time for our family, our friends, and our neighbours. Gone were the days when we go visit our neighbors during weekends. Heck, sometimes it’s even difficult to have all the family members sit down and dine together. There will always be 1 or 2 missing family members who are too busy with their work.
And when we finally have a bit of time, we’ll either be too tired to go out or too busy trying to relax ourselves. So the most we can do is to send a short e-mail, or a simple SMS to whoever concerned. That’s it. No more snail mails (I still love snail mails actually though I don’t do it anymore). Lesser phone calls. And yeah, less frequent meet-ups as well.
So when people say technology brings everyone closer.. in a way, it does. But it will only bring people “this” close….and nothing more. In fact, the warm feeling when you’ve received a snail mail from someone halfway across the globe.. will never be there again. The warmness of people will start to fade with time, and the advancement of technology.
Also, if you do notice one thing, the number of hi-bye friends that we have tend to get more and more (people we don’t really notice, also known as passerby)..and the number of ‘true’ and close friends, becoming lesser and lesser. Depressing, isn’t it?
But it’s not hopeless yet. There is still something we can do – learn to appreciate and free up some of our time to BE THERE for people. It can be 5 minutes short call, 10 minutes of conversation, or 30 minutes of lunch appointment. Or just a couple of minutes of heart-to-heart chat. Be there and notice the people around you.
Remember, busy is not an excuse for not being there when someone needs you most..
The sad thing is, we’re becoming too occupied for our own good. We are so busy that we do not have the time to notice other people around us. We have lesser time for our family, our friends, and our neighbours. Gone were the days when we go visit our neighbors during weekends. Heck, sometimes it’s even difficult to have all the family members sit down and dine together. There will always be 1 or 2 missing family members who are too busy with their work.
And when we finally have a bit of time, we’ll either be too tired to go out or too busy trying to relax ourselves. So the most we can do is to send a short e-mail, or a simple SMS to whoever concerned. That’s it. No more snail mails (I still love snail mails actually though I don’t do it anymore). Lesser phone calls. And yeah, less frequent meet-ups as well.
So when people say technology brings everyone closer.. in a way, it does. But it will only bring people “this” close….and nothing more. In fact, the warm feeling when you’ve received a snail mail from someone halfway across the globe.. will never be there again. The warmness of people will start to fade with time, and the advancement of technology.
Also, if you do notice one thing, the number of hi-bye friends that we have tend to get more and more (people we don’t really notice, also known as passerby)..and the number of ‘true’ and close friends, becoming lesser and lesser. Depressing, isn’t it?
But it’s not hopeless yet. There is still something we can do – learn to appreciate and free up some of our time to BE THERE for people. It can be 5 minutes short call, 10 minutes of conversation, or 30 minutes of lunch appointment. Or just a couple of minutes of heart-to-heart chat. Be there and notice the people around you.
Remember, busy is not an excuse for not being there when someone needs you most..
just my 2cents at 12:20 AM |
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