Saturday, May 19, 2007

a man may bleed but he never sheds a tear?

currently feelin' under the weather, but still have the energy to write about this topic. it's said that men tend toward relational insensitivity, while women tend toward relational sensitivity. of course right? men are not supposed to be sensitive, ever. they should be masculine, macho and never show their emotions. as men expected to be tough and strong, and women tend to be gentle and tender. that's the standard.

as perfectly said by Wong Fei Hung in Iron Monkey, 
A man should stand on his two feet. A man may bleed but he never sheds a tear.

so what do you call sensitive men then? apparently they have a term for that now. have you guys heard the term S.N.A.G.? it's an abbreviation for "Sensitive New Age Guys". i never heard of such thing until a good friend of mine enlightened me with the new word a few months ago. according to urban dictionary:

snag is Sensitive New Age Guy (S.N.A.G). Similar to the Metrosexual, but more timid and sensitive.

metrosexual, on the other hand, is (noun) Of or pertaining to a straight, urban male who is eager to embrace and even show off his feminine side, especially when it comes to expensive haircuts, designer suits, and $40 face cream. -From Netscape Celebrity basically, in other words, a guy who takes care of himself in ways society classifies as feminine pursuits.

interesting stuff. so if a guy is a snag or a metrosexual, does that make him less than a man? some people might agree so. the standard seems to agree too. and i think it's not entirely their fault. in malaysia, we're living in a society where there's a fine line about this very issue. if you did your nails or worst, had your hair done, you're gay. simple as that.

from my observation, generally, you can tell that guys are close when they're comfortable making fun (kutuk) of each other. sounds ridiculous, but i believe that's how it works. when we start using obscene and offensive words, calling each other names, making fun of everything you can find in your friend, that means we're buddies. we're tight. we're homies. so for sensitive men (whatever you call them), it won't work don't you think? it's gonna cause a big problem, as it will definitely hurt their feelings. okay, what if a normal straight guy got pissed off after a conversation with a group of normal straight friends (who repeatedly making fun of him), does that make him sensitive too? we can't help but to make such assumption. usually we will say, "lighten up dude, we're just playin'" or in malay, "hak enan, lepak aa brader, takkan benda camtuh pon nak merajuk kot..". can we blame them? maybe when things got out of our of hands, we should acknowledge that men have feelings too. they're human beings too, who can't run from emotions. of course we're all expected to lighten up, but at the same time we should consider the timing and some people are just born sensitive.

like i mentioned in my previous entry, we can never seem to satisfy anyone eh? if we're tight with our homies, we're cool. if we're quiet, reserved, bad at jokes, we're not cool, boring, lame people. if we make jokes and make fun of our friends, people say we're loud and insensitive. not considerate. when we got pissed off, we're labelled sensitive. confusing eh? the solution is simple. let's strive to be ourselves, so we can live our lives, the way it should be. if we happen to hurt someone's feelings along the way, so be it. sounds cruel though. i'm not saying that i'm encouraging everyone to act like a bitch, but while we're trying to accomodate other people's feelings, we should at least think about ours. we have our own feelings too, and it's almost IMPOSSIBLE to satisfy everybody. please yourself, not everybody, right?

wahahahaha my headache is gettin' worse. and out of words too. need to lie down. peace.

just my 2cents at 8:48 PM |

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