Saturday, February 24, 2007

i'm sorry, what did ya say?

The word SORRY is indeed a powerful word. so powerful. songs like sorry
seems to be the hardest word (blue feat. elton john) and hard to say
i'm sorry (azyet) perfectly illustrate that we, finds it hard to say those
3 magical words, "i am sorry". and why is that? probably ego? i guess
so. our human nature that sometimes (maybe most of the times), we don't wanna
admit our own mistakes. we perceive that by saying sorry, it's a sign of
weaknesses. we would be like "why should i'm the one who give in, if
he/she who's the one who screwed up."


okay, i learned elementary logic (a philosophy class) way back in 2000, but i
still remember the most common form of a conjunction in logic and mathematics.
if p, then q. p is called the hypothesis (or premise) and q is called the
conclusion.


premise: p ---> q

premise: p 

conclusion: q 


for example:


premise: he passes the interview

conclusion: he will get the job

if he passes the interview, then he will get the job.


i've been thinking about this theory when i went for lunch just now. so i wanna
apply this theory with what i'm talking about. however, this example ONLY apply
for our relationship with another human being (hablu minan nas), not our
relationship with god (hablu minAllah).


1) premise: nobody's perfect. everyone makes mistakes.


supporting quotations:

i) to err is human; to repent, divine; to persist, devilish. (benjamin
franklin)

ii) the greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of making one. (elbert
hubbard)


2) conclusion: we should forgive another human being for their mistakes.



supporting quotations:

i) firman Allah:


3:133 Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden
whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens and of the earth, prepared
for the righteous,-

3:134 Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who
restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for Allah loves those
who do good;-

Sura 3 - Ayat 133
& 134

Al-Imran (The Family of Imran)

in malay:

'Dan bersegeralah kamu kepada keampunan daripada Tuhanmu dan kepada syurga yang
disediakan untuk orang-orang yang bertaqwa. (Iaitu) orang-orang yang
menafkahkan (hartanya), baik di waktu lapang atau sempit, dan orang yang
menahan marahnya dan memaafkan (kesalahan) orang. Allah
menyukai orang-orang yang berbuat kebajikan.' (Ali-Imran: 133-134)

STATEMENT: if nobody's prefect, we should forgive them for their
mistakes.


what i'm trying to say is, if the statement "if nobody's prefect, we
should forgive them for their mistakes" is correct, don't you think the
word "sorry" is a little bit redundant here? should we
remove it from our human dictionary? stop using it at all? why should we say
we're sorry, if the person should have forgive/accept/understand us for our
mistakes, and vice versa. u guys remember the popular p. ramlee & saloma's
duet, sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, "sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit,
apa pula suami isteri"? and i don't remember who said this, "sedangkan
nabi ampunkan ummat, inikan pula..."


but it's easy for me to say. that's not gonna happen right? we can't remove the
word sorry from our lives. someone told me not so long ago, that the two most
important sentences you should use in a relationship are "i love you"
and "i am sorry". so what's the actual purpose of the word sorry?
simply a formality? u just say the word to get away? how do we know if he/she
is being sincere or not? and that's the point i'm trying to make. IT DOESN'T
MATTER. we should forgive them anyway. we are living in a world where our own
species are capable of doing unbelievable things that might hurt our feelings.
but how much is too much? can we forgive them if their act is too violent,
horrendous, unacceptable and beyond out imagination? when it comes to it, and
your feelings are deeply involved, it's tough. real tough. personally, i know
if someone did something really really really bad to me, it would difficult to
forgive him/her.


other than that, when dealing with small issues, let's not be too carried away.
if a friend did something bad to you, forgive him/her. how bad can it be?
REALLY bad, you say. you could have done something bad to them too, but we, the
"innocent" people will always say, "why do people always hurt my
feelings? they never seem to care." and what do we think when it's our
turn to make mistakes? NOTHING. do unto to others as you would have them do
unto you, right? let's make love (rrrr...), not war. wahahaha again, easy for
me to say...

sorry (okay, i'm not being sincere), this entry is kinda long.
hehe...okay i'm out. PEACE.

just my 2cents at 8:06 AM |

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