Tuesday, April 2, 2013
Our wish to Rayna & Aydan
Happy 4th Birthday Rayna | Happy 2nd Birthday Aydan
On the day you see us old, weak and weary..
Have patience and try to understand us..
If we get dirty when eating..
If we cannot dress on our own..
Please bear with us and remember the times we spend feeding and dress you up.
If, when we speak to you, we repeat the same things over and over again.. do not interrupt us..
listen to us..
When you were small, we had to read to you the same story a thousand and one times until you went to sleep.
When we do not want to have shower, neither shame nor scold us..
Remember when we had to chase you with your thousand excuses to get you to the shower?
When you see our ignorance of new technologies..
Help us navigate our way through those worldwide webs.
We taught you how to do so many things..
To eat the right foods, to dress appropriately, to fight for your rights..
When at some moments we lose the memory or the thread of our conversation..
Let us have the necessary time to remember..
And if we cannot, do not become nervous..
As the most important thing is not our conversation but surely to be with you and to have you listening to us..
If ever we do not feel like eating, do not force us..
We know well when we need to and when not to eat.
When our tired legs give way and do not allow us to walk without a cane.
Lend us your hands.
The same way we did when you tried your first faltering steps.
And when someday we say to you that we do not want to live anymore, that we want to die.
Do not get angry, some day you will understand.
Try to understand that our age is not just lived but survived.
Some day you will realize that, despite our mistake,
We always wanted the best for you.
And we tried to prepare the way for you.
Help us to walk..
Help us to live the rest of our life with love and dignity..
We will pay you with a smile and by the immense love.
We had always had for you in our hearts.
We love you, child.
"Mom and Dad"
This is indeed a very very touching poem and it really explains how I feel personally. We’re living in the modern era.. where young people go to big cities to work, leaving the old ones in their hometowns. And how many actually go back to their hometowns often? For those who are staying near, it is ok.. but for those who are staying miles apart (for example, it’ll take me 4-5 hours to go back to my hometown by car.. and another 4-5 hours to return to Puchong), it’s a bit hard for us to go back without becoming tired. That’s why I normally take 1 or 2 days off if I were to travel back to Kedah.
Due to our hectic lifestyle, our parents will not be able to see us that often. They’ll be alone, with their friends (if they’re lucky). However, as they grow older, things will change a lot. Their friends might not be able to meet up with them that often, they might not be able to move around that well, their visions might become worse.. and the list goes on and on..
The thing with parents is, they don’t want us to worry about them. If you try to ask them whether they are OK, they will tell you they’re FINE even if they’re not. Sometimes, we do take their words for granted.. because we’re being trained that way. But NO.. not all their “words” can be taken from granted. Sometimes, the things they said are to make us stop worrying about them and carry on with our hectic lifestyles. Our parents, at times, can be a really good salesman or consultant.
Well, in the end, it is still up to you to decide how you want to spend time with your parents. And I believe if the content of the poem touches your heart one way or another, you will know what to do.
Remember, time really flies.. and we will never know what might happen tomorrow. How many 10 years do we have left, to spend with our beloved parents? Think about it.
p/s .. A lot of people asked me why don’t I want to stay in oversea.. the salary is better…standard of living is better.. and it’s definitely a better option than to work in our country (which is a little bit screwed up). I didn't want to because my family especially my parents, they’re in Malaysia. I need to play my role as a son. Furthermore, I really feel happy with my parents are in SP.. They themselves confessed that they’re happier in SP, with my brother. At least, my parents are honest this time, which is something I’m glad.
just my 2cents at 9:52 AM |
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