Saturday, May 19, 2007
a man may bleed but he never sheds a tear?
currently feelin' under the weather, but still have the energy to write about this topic. it's said that men tend toward relational insensitivity, while women tend toward relational sensitivity. of course right? men are not supposed to be sensitive, ever. they should be masculine, macho and never show their emotions. as men expected to be tough and strong, and women tend to be gentle and tender. that's the standard.
as perfectly said by Wong Fei Hung in Iron Monkey,
A man should stand on his two feet. A man may bleed but he never sheds a tear.
so what do you call sensitive men then? apparently they have a term for that now. have you guys heard the term S.N.A.G.? it's an abbreviation for "Sensitive New Age Guys". i never heard of such thing until a good friend of mine enlightened me with the new word a few months ago. according to urban dictionary:
snag is Sensitive New Age Guy (S.N.A.G). Similar to the Metrosexual, but more timid and sensitive.
metrosexual, on the other hand, is (noun) Of or pertaining to a straight, urban male who is eager to embrace and even show off his feminine side, especially when it comes to expensive haircuts, designer suits, and $40 face cream. -From Netscape Celebrity basically, in other words, a guy who takes care of himself in ways society classifies as feminine pursuits.
interesting stuff. so if a guy is a snag or a metrosexual, does that make him less than a man? some people might agree so. the standard seems to agree too. and i think it's not entirely their fault. in malaysia, we're living in a society where there's a fine line about this very issue. if you did your nails or worst, had your hair done, you're gay. simple as that.
from my observation, generally, you can tell that guys are close when they're comfortable making fun (kutuk) of each other. sounds ridiculous, but i believe that's how it works. when we start using obscene and offensive words, calling each other names, making fun of everything you can find in your friend, that means we're buddies. we're tight. we're homies. so for sensitive men (whatever you call them), it won't work don't you think? it's gonna cause a big problem, as it will definitely hurt their feelings. okay, what if a normal straight guy got pissed off after a conversation with a group of normal straight friends (who repeatedly making fun of him), does that make him sensitive too? we can't help but to make such assumption. usually we will say, "lighten up dude, we're just playin'" or in malay, "hak enan, lepak aa brader, takkan benda camtuh pon nak merajuk kot..". can we blame them? maybe when things got out of our of hands, we should acknowledge that men have feelings too. they're human beings too, who can't run from emotions. of course we're all expected to lighten up, but at the same time we should consider the timing and some people are just born sensitive.
like i mentioned in my previous entry, we can never seem to satisfy anyone eh? if we're tight with our homies, we're cool. if we're quiet, reserved, bad at jokes, we're not cool, boring, lame people. if we make jokes and make fun of our friends, people say we're loud and insensitive. not considerate. when we got pissed off, we're labelled sensitive. confusing eh? the solution is simple. let's strive to be ourselves, so we can live our lives, the way it should be. if we happen to hurt someone's feelings along the way, so be it. sounds cruel though. i'm not saying that i'm encouraging everyone to act like a bitch, but while we're trying to accomodate other people's feelings, we should at least think about ours. we have our own feelings too, and it's almost IMPOSSIBLE to satisfy everybody. please yourself, not everybody, right?
wahahahaha my headache is gettin' worse. and out of words too. need to lie down. peace.
just my 2cents at 8:48 PM |
Monday, May 14, 2007
New Key Performance Indicators?
Since most of us are already working, and some are going to soon, I think we all can relate to this, an interesting yet hillarious insight on how we look at "Key Performance Indicators (KPI)" at work.
i. Outgoing Personality - Always going out of the office
ii. Great Presentation Skills - Able to bullshit
iii. Good Communication Skills - Spends lots of time on phone
iv. Work Is First Priority - Too ugly to get a date
v. Active Socially - Drink a lot
vi. Independent Worker - Nobody knows what he/she does
vii. Quick Thinking - Offer plausible excuses
viii. Careful Thinker - Won't make a decision
ix. Uses Logic On Difficult Jobs - Get someone else to do it
x. Expresses Themselves Well - Speaks English
xi. Meticulous Attention To Detail - A nit picker
xii. Has Leadership Qualities - Is tall or has a louder voice
xiii. Exceptionally Good Judgement - Lucky
xiv. Keen Sense Of Humour - Knows a lot of dirty jokes
xv. Career Minded - Backstabber
xvi. Loyal - Can't get a job anywhere else
Wahahahahahaha true enough, especially xiv. Why does it have to be dirty jokes, almost all the time ?
There are always 2 ways to look at things eh? Hehe..
just my 2cents at 9:10 PM |
Friday, May 4, 2007
Jodoh?
I heard and read somewhere that there are 3 things set from azali:
i) Jodoh
ii) Rezeki
iii) Ajal
I'm just wondering, if "Jodoh itu di tangan Tuhan", why are there so many divorces and failed marriages in our society, not just in Western countries like the United States? Does that means "Dah tiada jodoh" or "Jodoh itu tidak panjang?" (as mentioned by a friend). I had trouble figuring that one out. What does the phrase "Jodoh itu di tangan Tuhan" actually means? Does that mean some unlucky people won't be able to meet their jodoh in their lifetime?
As we all know, to look for a life partner we should also doa' + effort/usaha + tawakkal as well. What if the marriage still fails? Perhaps an arranged marriage will last longer/work better rather than we look for a partner ourselves. Hmmmm when two people are in love and get married, does that mean they've found jodoh in themselves? What if for some reasons they get divorced years later, find somebody else and the second marriage lasts forever? Which one is jodoh then?
Some questions / thoughts on my mind:
1) Hypothetically speaking. A loving couple has been together for many many years. They were extremely close with each other's family, trust each other with all their heart and one day they decided to settle down. Get married. Tie the knot. But the marriage turned out to be a complete disaster. They tried everything they could to save it, but a few years later, they decided to go their separate ways. What does that mean? "Jodoh mereka tidak panjang?", even though they work really hard for it? They are simply not meant for each other?
2) Perhaps the actual definition for "Jodoh tidak panjang" is when a husband or a wife passed away early in the marriage, much to the the dismay that they're like the "perfect couple" you'll ever know? That makes more sense right? They are so right for each other, but Death is also set from Azali. What if your spouse passed away, you managed to move on and get married for the second time and live happily ever after with your new life partner. Does that mean you're lucky to find 2 jodohs in your lifetime?
3) To find the right (not perfect) wife or husband, one should practise consistent doa' + effort/usaha + tawakkal. We're not gonna find anyone by just waiting in the house, hoping and hoping every single day that one fine day, Mr./Mrs. Right will come knocking through front door. It doesn't work that way. A friend mentioned to me years ago, arranged marriage might work better than the conventional ones because both party are willing to make the marriage work. Both party agreed and willingly participate in the arranged marriage, having the preconception that they must put their utmost effort the make the marriage last. But what if the marriage still fails? I know such couple who ended up that way. It's such a pity because I know both the husband and wife wanted it to work so bad, but yet.
4) Muslim men are allowed (I want to use the word "entitled" but it's too strong) to have 4 wives. Which one is his jodoh? The first one? Because that's his first love? What about the second one? Third one? Fourth one? Which one then? All of them?
just my 2 cents.. I’m out.. need to lie down. peace..
just my 2cents at 12:14 AM |
